Bad dating advice for men
”Truth be told, While I found my friend beautiful, likable, and funny I wasn’t romantically attracted to her in the slightest.It ended up confusing her because I always wanted to hang out, yet she also had romantic feelings.All of this may sound frightening, but remember that courage comes in the form of speaking the truth.Many a college student have graduated their university only to end up angry and confused because they followed career advice hand-picked by their parents.No one likes being in the “friend zone.” It’s like the scene from Superman where Zod and his buddies get sent to the Phantom Zone. If you’re the one who has romantic feelings, you might be embarrassed to share them for fear of rejection.The other alternative is to keep torturing yourself and wonder if that person will ever reciprocate.That was the nagging sensation in my gut all along.
I’m not particularly fond of you and don’t necessarily enjoy your company, but I plan to make this work.”That’s not a friend or lover you’d want to have, right?Out of that relationship, however, I’ve learned that sometimes well-meaning advice is actually .There are ways to spot it and avoid the “friend zone” in the process too. By and far, my gut reaction was the strongest feeling of resistance when I decided to date my friend.Choice and commitment are elements of a healthy relationship.It’s true we need more than just fleeting “” emotions.Friends continued to press why we weren’t dating, and I was honest enough to explain I didn’t feel a single romantic spark in my bones toward her.“Why? While I took my friends teasing with a grain of salt, one evening I sat listening to a respected and charismatic speaker talk about dating.During a Q&A portion a young man asked whether he should date a girl he felt no attraction toward.Most other people will agree that after a relationship implodes, they should have “trusted their gut.”When something doesn’t feel right, chances are it’s usually wrong.Deep down you know you’re getting duped or your BS radar knows something you haven’t caught onto yet.Everyone on earth will experience conflict in a relationship. So after those events happen, will and choice play a part.But white-knuckling a dating relationship until feelings magically appear ends up wounding one party.